A Letter to Her

By Jae Vitug | World of Thoughts ©

“You’ve never really moved on until you see him with someone else.”

Dear You,

I know we haven’t been properly introduced, but I know you, you probably know me as well.

I saw you with him at a club one time, it was the first time that you guys met. I know, because I watched him as he got introduced to you. The next thing I saw, were you guys kissing.

I didn’t come to get him, we were over, and I’m not competitive. It hurts but I don’t wanna ruin it.

I thought he was alone for all those two months I was trying to get over him while I was out of Manila. I thought it was a one-time deal with you guys, but I just knew as of recently that you continued seeing each other.

You’re beautiful, some girls may like him too, but he’ll show them he already has you. Don’t be insecure when other girls take a picture with him. Support him in that. He can be really flattered, but he will never choose them over you.

He will love you with all his heart. Never take it for granted, treasure it.

I will never have fully moved on until I’d know that there’s someone for him, guiding him. I’m not saying he’s weak, he’s a very strong man. He’s amazing, in fact the most amazing person I’ve ever met yet, he’s just different.

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For My Bestfriend: Her Message to Me

By Tami Sangalang | Tumblr ©

Baby Girl,

Stop waiting around for the boy who never appreciated what he had.

I know you love him and that isn’t going to change but you’re hanging on to false hope sitting by your phone waiting for his name to pop up. The alcohol you drown in and the men you let into your room will not make the thoughts of him go away.

You don’t need anyone to survive. You have you, and that’s enough. Stop beating yourself up because he chose her, do not lower your worth, that was his shitty mistake because he lost the only girl that would ever love him with purity.

He’s gone darling and I know it feels like your body’s in flames but you just won’t fucking die. I know the pain is unbearable but it’s time to let him go, let go of what you thought should have been.

Never forget that you are enough. Time is the most agonizing wonderful thing, your heart is going to heal no matter what wars you have to go through to get there.

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Party Girl To Professional: What It’s Like Having A Heel In Both Worlds

By Zara Barrie |  Elite Daily ©

I feel like people always talk about how they’re either blissfully dancing their lives away in the diamond-encrusted, champagne-fueled party girl lifestyle OR that they’re self-identifying EX-party girls whose current lives consist of nothing more than a comforting myriad of house plants, husbands and flat, sensible shoes (I might have thrown up a little in my mouth regarding the latter).

But what, dear WHAT about those of us girls who are amidst the awkward and painful transition out of the party girl lifestyle?

It’s like being stuck in acne-adorned adolescence all over again: “Not a girl, but not yet a woman.”

GAG me with a spoon gently, please.

I feel there is a surplus of Generation-Y girls who have been sorely misrepresented, widely ignored and entirely left out of the party girl conversation.

What about the girls who have one platform boot in the nightclub and one pointed kitten heel in the office?

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The Toughest Part About Breaking Up Is Losing Your Best Friend

By Paul Hudson |  Elite Daily ©

I have this ongoing debate with myself on whether life is the most beautiful or most horrific state of existence in the universe. One could easily find an argument for both sides.

Life allows for pleasure, but it also allows for pain. It allows for happiness, but it also allows for suffering. It allows for greatness, but it also allows for insignificance. It can be both simple and complex, confusing, even maddening.

Going through life alone is possible in theory, but in practice, it’s only the sociopaths capable of living such secluded lives. Everybody else, we need other people in our lives to feel happy.

How many other people? I guess that’s really up to you… Just keep in mind that close and meaningful relationships take significant time to build.

Your relationship doesn’t necessarily need to be a romantic one, but let’s be honest; we want to have our cake and eat it. We don’t just want a friend to share our lives with; we want a lover, a partner.

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What It’s Like When Your Hometown No Longer Feels Like It’s Your Home

By Ashley Fern |  Elite Daily ©

It’s like you feel homesick for a place that doesn’t even exist. Maybe it’s like this rite of passage, you know?

I don’t know, but I miss the idea of it, you know. Maybe that’s all family really is. A group of people that miss the same imaginary place. – “Garden State”

There will come a time in adulthood when you make that cherished journey back to the place where you grew up.

A time when you book a plane ticket and embark on that familiar voyage back to the place where you lost your first tooth, where you had your first kiss and where you learned your first lessons about life.

You leave the life you’ve been creating for yourself, the life that seems so small compared to the one your parents made for you.

You take a deep breath and make that trip home.

You get to your hometown and drive down the same streets you still know like the back of your hand.

You see your family, you reminiscence and you go to sleep in your old bed.

Somewhere along the way, it will hit you.

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